Parent?

There is so much to discuss! First, how are things going? Parenting is an amazing experience, even before factoring in things like your own childhood experiences, your adult expectations, or those standards of other people in your life (including, but not limited to your spouse/partner, your own parents, your siblings, friends, neighbors, sorority sisters, fraternity brothers, classmates, and other professionals… ) Do you already have an idea who your child will be and how they will interact with you? And how is THAT going? Do you have strict rules about things like cleanliness, eating vegetables, and limiting access to the internet? What about sports interest/ability or physical stature/health? Or physical/developmental challenges?

My point is, your child may have been here for some time or may have recently arrived, but either way, they are their own sovereign spirit with their own set of preferences and challenges that have absolutely nothing to do with you. They are here with their own mission in life which they must fulfill. Part of that mission is to function as a mirror for YOU - their parent. They will show you many things about yourself along the way. For example, am I really that judgmental/opinionated? Am I controlling? Do I bully my kids? Is my sense of humor that off? Do I care more about money than having fun?

These are just a few of the questions that my clients (and I!) have dealt with as parents. Let’s address these questions and more together! As we develop an understanding of the pathways we will encounter, you and your family will become very Conscious. I would love to work with you, even during this pandemic. Zoom sessions are available by contacting me at the number below. I look forward to hearing from you!

Adult?

Yes, you have parents….Whether or not you are still close, they have left a major impact on you. It is time to check that out so you can freely live your one Conscious life!

As we consider your childhood experiences, you will be able to really see the kind of things you have learned from your parents and how those ideas present in your daily life. Did your mother have strong standards/expectations? Perhaps that is showing up in your romantic relationships. What about your father? Was he very strict about acceptable behavior for yourself? Could be time to add some flexibility to your life. Did a family member have strong preferences about your profession, but you find yourself personally unsatisfied? May be time to take a deep breath and try something different — even on a part-time basis!

You may not have heard about the Inner Child before (IC), but everyone has one, and it is the internal character created by the Ego when as children we were treated in ways that left us feeling lesser-than by others. It could be as simple as taking our father’s ill temperament when he arrived home after work personally, as if it were directed at you, rather then being a result of dealing with a demanding boss. What this looks like as an adult? You see it whenever we are triggered/emotionally upset by something in our adult life that seems a bit of an extreme reaction.

As you mature, you may find some things about your life don’t feel as comfortable as they once did. That’s not your fault. Many things can change as you move through your life, and that’s OK. Underneath the voices of the adults in your life, believe it or not, your true voice is always there. I can help you become more conscious and accepting of that voice, and bring that forward in your life, in a way that honors you and your family. Please give me a call. A Conscious Life is waiting….

Spouse/Partner?

Well now there are 2 adults, who often have longtime relationships with multiple sets of people; parents, siblings, and friends. Each of these siblings have their own beliefs about how the world works (or maybe how it has worked for you!) The friends join your community with their own experiences, perspectives, children(?) and opinions of what makes a successful marriage.

So how to come together with a spouse/partner in a conscious way? Everything written elsewhere on this page also applies here. Being a conscious spouse requires you to be centered and focused. Not distracted, but calmly energized. Being able to connect openly and clearly with yourself is the start. Then with each other. How do you speak to each other? Open, honest communication is the beginning of conscious partnering. Respectful relationships that include clear boundaries that both honor easily are required .

If your Inner Child is active, and you get triggered by something that your partner says or does, taking a pause along with some breaths allows you to catch yourself before you move ahead too quickly, without being clear about what is really happening. Staying connected with your partner enables you both to work together and establish rules of understanding that you both can commit to.

Awakening to a new way of partnering — one that respects yourself and your partner completely — can feel uncomfortable at first, but with strong boundaries, open communication, and a commitment to win-win negotiations when differences arise, the partnership can be a very conscious one.

Let’s talk about developing a Conscious Partnership! Often, one partner begins this journey first, but whenever one starts is the perfect time! I would love to work with you! I live in the Washington, DC suburbs, and can work via Zoom!